Why Some Women Need a Gentle Man

Women who have never felt seen or heard, and have always put other people’s feelings first, have a tendency to swallow their emotions to keep the peace.

When they are then in the presence of a man who is gentle and soft, and open to listening to his woman, it allows their nervous system to relax and come back into homeostasis.

That is when true healing can begin.

That's why some women have that special glow when they're being loved in the right way within their relationship. It's not love itself, it's emotional safety.

When a man creates an environment where you feel heard and valued, your stress levels decrease.

Your body responds to this emotional security by releasing hormones that promote relaxation and happiness. This deep sense of calm can lead to better physical health, better sleep, and a radiant appearance.

When a man shows consistency in his actions and words, he builds confidence within the relationship.

Trust is the foundation of emotional security.

Knowing that you can trust your partner, and that they will be there for you in times of need, makes you feel safe. This trust allows you to open up and be vulnerable, deepening the emotional connection between you.

When we respect each other’s boundaries and understand each other’s needs, we reinforce our sense of self-worth. If respect is not present you begin to second guess yourself, thus lowering your self-worth.

Feeling respected and valued in a relationship contributes to your overall emotional well-being. It helps you maintain a positive self-image and boosts your confidence, which is often reflected in your behaviour and appearance.

When your partner supports your personal growth and encourages your aspirations, he/she creates a nurturing environment for both partners.

This mutual support fosters a sense of association and equality, making you feel empowered. The confidence and satisfaction that comes from pursuing your goals, with the support of your partner, enhances your beauty inside and out.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER 

Seek to understand your partner and something remarkable can blossom. All of us are looking for connectivity in these times. The healing of our world begins in conscious partnership.

As part of this awakening process, we are awakening the heart and accessing a deeper sense of who we are.

When we communicate openly and honestly, we foster a sense of transparency and understanding.

Effective communication reduces misunderstandings and conflicts, allowing you to feel more connected and understood. This emotional clarity and harmony contributes to a peaceful and loving relationship.

When we show empathy and compassion, we strengthen the emotional bond.

For women that may have felt invisible for the majority of their life, this is so important.

Knowing that your partner truly cares about your feelings and experiences creates a deep sense of intimacy.

This emotional closeness makes you feel appreciated, improving your emotional and physical well-being.

When we share responsibilities and collaborate together in our daily life, we relieve stress and promote a balanced relationship. Sharing the load and working together as a team reinforces the sense of partnership. This balance helps maintain harmony and reduces the burden on anyone, allowing both partners to thrive and feel supported.

When we express love and affection through consistent small gestures, we keep the relationship vibrant. These acts of kindness and consideration show that we are attentive and care about each other’s happiness. The cumulative effect of these positive interactions contributes to a lasting sense of joy and contentment.

When we prioritise spending quality time with each other, we strengthen the connection.

Shared experiences and moments of togetherness create lasting memories and deepen the bond. This quality time helps you feel valued and loved, improving your emotional safety and overall sense of well-being.

THE ESSENCE OF A LOVING RELATIONSHIP

For women who have probably felt invisible within their relationships their entire life (be it a romantic relationship or within the family home they grew up in), I understand how hard it may be to allow yourself to be vulnerable, especially if past experiences have shown you nobody truly cares about how you feel.

However, with a man who is gentle and who listens to you, and wants to understand how you need to be loved, you can share your inner desires because he is offering you the emotional security you need to soften and bloom.

The essence of a loving relationship lies in the emotional security and trust that nurtures both partners, allowing them to grow and shine together.

Love is perhaps our most powerful emotion, and the need to be in a loving relationship may be one of the strongest needs we have.

Being in an intimate relationship makes us feel connected, not only to our partner but also to the world at large. When our hearts are filled with love, we feel profoundly content and satisfied. We become more patient, empathetic, kinder, and more gentle souls.

But personal intimacy doesn't merely affect our emotional well-being. According to numerous scientific studies, the power of love directly affects our physical health, too, by boosting our immune system, improving our cardiovascular functioning, and increasing our life expectancy.

Love and intimacy are at the root of what makes us sick and what makes us well, says Dean Ornish, M.D., who explores the connections between love and health in his book love & survival (HarperCollins). When you look at the scientific data, the need for love and intimacy is as important and basic as eating, breathing, and sleeping.

MUTUAL RESPECT WITHIN A RELATIONSHIP

Any healthy relationship must be based on a solid underlying friendship. We must treat our partner with the same kindness, respect, and appreciation as you would a close friend. Support, listen to, and laugh with each other.

Don't allow yourselves to be rude or disrespectful.

Saying something kind and affectionate to your partner should be a daily habit. The expression of loving thoughts nourishes your relationship by helping you both remember what it is you treasure about each other. Let your partner know how much you appreciate him or her, and be generous with compliments and expressions of affection.

However, since disagreements and arguments are inevitable, what's important is not whether you fight but how you fight. When disagreements surface, remember that mutual respect is the key to resolving the issue. Don't start with name calling and dredge up issues from last week or last month, keep your disagreement focused on the actual issue and tackle it together.

If you feel like your conflict just keeps circling around the same thing, perhaps it’s time to bring in a third party to try and point out different ways these conflicts can be resolved. It can be very beneficial to bring in a professional to give you some tools to help.

Talk to a counselor, take a class on communications skills, listen to a podcast on conscious communication, or read a book on relationship-building together? Your efforts will likely spark important discussions about your relationship and, ultimately, enhance it.

Being an attentive listener lets your partner know that his or her thoughts and feelings are important to you. More to the point, good listening encourages partners to open up and be willing to share.

The secret is not just to "hear" what your partner is saying, but to be truly "present", having a heartfelt desire to understand what is being said, and listening without being judgmental.

The foundation of conscious communication is something that can be chosen in every moment. We need to really listen to our partners, so that they feel safe to tell us what they need. In being 100% present to them, and in meeting their needs, we benefit just as much as they do.




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