You Are Enough

Questioning if you are ‘enough’ and not believing you are, is something I feel most of us can relate to.  At one point or another, we have all struggled with questioning our worthiness or enoughness, including me.  We live in an extremely fast paced world and we always have a ‘To Do’ list a mile long.  Getting caught up in all the ‘things’ you have to do seems inevitable and it’s easy to see why you forget about the most important thing - YOU.  

Because of this lifestyle, you never seem to stop, and when you do, you feel as if you haven’t really achieved anything.  

Day after day you do the same thing and feel as if you haven’t got anywhere.  You start to question your abilities, you start to compare yourself to others and you start to feel the heaviness of not being enough.  After all, if you were enough, you could do everything.  

How many times have you heard yourself say that?  

One thing is certain, you’re definitely not alone.  That person you think has it all together will have probably had the exact same struggles at some point.

So many sessions I have with clients come back to the same issue ‘I’m not enough’ whether it’s;

• I’m not worthy

• I’m not lovable

• I don’t deserve

No matter which way you say it, they all come back to the same thing…

I’m not enough!!!

What we tend to do next is, people pleasing.  We stretch ourself further from who we are and do things we may not want to do, in order to get validation from others.  What we’re doing is looking externally to the world to fill the void that we have actually created ourselves.  And once we start doing this, it confirms our initial thought that we’re not enough. 

You can see how easy it is to fall into this cycle.

It’s the capitalistic world that we live in that has taught us to live from a place of scarcity, to look outside ourselves to find our worth.  We’ve been programmed to buy, buy, buy and fill our life with ‘things’ to fill that feeling of lack and to prove that we are successful.  The problem with that is, we never will be because we’re looking externally for validation…  My father was a perfect example of this, he lived through WWII, he came from nothing and built a thriving business, he surrounded himself with everything he felt he needed and it was still never enough.  No purchase was ever going to be enough because the lack was coming from his past and how society had programmed him to think.

When we look outside ourselves to fill an internal void, nothing will ever be enough.

• Stop being a nonexistent person in your own life.

• Stop looking to the external world for validation.

• Stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

• Start actively participating in your own life.

• Start being the person you know you are.

• Start looking inwards to see all the beauty and potential that already exists within you.

• You are ‘enough’.

• You are an entire Universe within your body.

How could that not be enough?

ACKNOWLEDGE THE PART YOU PLAY IN YOUR LIFE

Have you started to notice you’re more of a passenger than the driver in your own life?  You seem to just go along for the ride and end up anywhere life takes you. You put the lives of your loved ones ahead of your own. You give so much of yourselves so willingly, believing it is who you are and what you want, and it wholeheartedly is, but what you’re really doing is losing who you truly are by giving it all away. But that’s ok, because you’re exactly where you're meant to be. I’ll explain shortly.  I see this as the difference between your ‘life path’ and your ‘life destiny’.

I used to look at this with mixed emotions, going round in circles but not truly understanding the value of where I was at that exact moment.  We have seasons, just like the weather, just like the ebb and flow of the ocean, we too are meant to flux with our soul and the environment we are surrounded by.

So yes, I one hundred percent wanted to give myself fully to those I love (after all that’s who I am) and I used to think that giving to everyone else and not myself made me selfless and a caring person, but truly it just made me forget MY worth.  It made me feel as if everyone else was more worthy than me, which ultimately made me feel I wasn’t not enough.

Now I see it’s actually part of our destiny.

We’re meant to lose ourselves, to enable us to get to a point that we start searching for ourselves.  

We come into this world with a life path.  

We’ve chosen the people who are our birth family, and along with that we have already predetermined many obstacles our soul will need to navigate.  

This is all part of your soul's plan to determine your destiny.  

If you manage to navigate these challenges and rediscover your soul as it’s pure form, you then have the ability to create your legacy and fulfill your destiny.

So please don’t get to any point in your life and beat yourself up, because right at that very moment, you’re exactly where your soul wants you to be.

ALLOW THE DEEP CELLULAR HEALING TO ENVELOP YOU

It’s time to repattern your belief system, and allow your body to return to its natural state of being whole, being ‘enough’.

Globally we’re living in new times, we’re all part of the greatest unravelling we have ever known, so now is the perfect time to press pause and draw from the wisdom within and let that be the authority and the beacon in your life.

However, to allow the unravelling to occur, you first have to acknowledge the existence of the messiness (that which no longer serves you).

I have recently been on my own journey of creating a more intentional life and it’s only through truly living the stillness daily (not just the stillness here and there) but truly being the stillness, that I can see and feel the busyness that had crept back into my life  Even though I was still living from a soul space, the chaos that existed in my outside world had started to become acceptable again.

So even if you aren’t able to change the chaos around you, finding the calm within you (amongst that chaos) is a fantastic starting point.  

I now truly recognise and appreciate the person I was 5 years ago when I started my healing journey because if she hadn’t first lost herself and then taken a stance and said enough, I wouldn’t be living from such a peaceful place of gratitude.

So appreciate every step you take.  

Acknowledge the changes you have made.

Continue to create new set points as you go.

And remind yourself every step of the way that YOU ARE ENOUGH.

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