Creating A More Purposeful Life

Have you ever thought creating a purposeful life sounds amazing, but you’ve never known what the next step was?  Well, it’s different for everyone.  Nobody can tell you how to live a purposeful life, you need to tune into your inner thoughts and desires and start to unravel what lights you up and what weighs you down.

It’s finding clarity, discovering who you truly are, your values, making more conscious choices instead of allowing the world to dictate them to you. It’s knowing your boundaries and choosing that no matter what, these are your beliefs and you intend to live by them.

To give you an idea of what I mean, I have written about my experience of trying to understand why it has been so hard for me to slow down and live a more intentional life.   Follow me on this journey as I unravel social expectations, individual conditioning and my ancestral trauma.  You may find this brings up emotions for you and this is good, go with those emotions and see where they take you.  Tuning in to yourself is all about listening to those niggles, those thoughts and starting to decipher what they’re telling you.

2020 was a year of vision and ideas for me, but with that came pushing myself to the point of burn out.  Even with all the tools and knowledge I have gathered as an Energy & Soul Medicine Practitioner over the years, I still ended up back in the same old pattern of pushing myself to exhaustion. So I figured the Christmas break gave me the perfect opportunity to tap back into Soul (and cut out the noise of the outside world) to try and understand why after all these years I still fell back into the same old pattern.

Now when I started down this path of choosing a more intentional life, it couldn’t have been further from my thoughts that this would trigger another pattern within my family lineage, but yet again I am drawn there.  Over the past year, I have been refining my understanding and interpretation of Generational Healing and it never ceases to amaze me that so many issues in our lives come back to our ancestors.

Anyone that knows me, knows that my entire life has been about showing the family I was born into, that a woman can do anything a man can do. I can work as hard, if not harder and I can most definitely succeed just as well as a man, my gender wasn’t going to define me and nobody was going to tell me otherwise. I was determined to break that pattern and my families beliefs (along with the entire world back when I was younger and still to this day in many places), that the feminine sex was the inferior sex.  

Yet, through my determination to break one pattern, I amplified another. I amplified a pattern within my lineage that had gone back many generations which was, you had to work hard to succeed and if you didn’t work hard you would never succeed.  So you can see how this is fighting against the very thing I was trying to achieve, a more purposeful intentional life.

However, as I become more in tune with my body and soul and start feeling more at home in my skin, I find myself wanting to rebel against the ‘you must work hard to succeed’ mentality..

Yes, I was taught a strong, work hard ethic, and society reiterated that, but now I find myself laughing at it, the new energy that is pulsating through my field calls bullshit.  That is one way, yes, it’s the patriarchal capitalist way and also my lineages way, and now I am choosing to actively rebel against it, it's not the only way and it’s not the way I want to live any more.

Life isn’t about working hard to succeed, life is about tuning into your Soul’s desires, to your passion, to what lights you up and creating your life around that!  I used to tell exactly that to my kids years ago when they were little, but as they got older and I needed to provide for them in a world where living expenses continued to increase, that slipped away a little and I started to live a more capitalist life.

So for me, 2021 is about creating a lifestyle that supports me and aligns with my beliefs.  Yet as I sit here and start to unpack why slowing down feels so difficult, I find mixed emotions bubbling to the surface of both my Mother and my Father, which I find completely fascinating.

UNDERSTANDING THE ENERGY UNDERNEATH THE ISSUE

The strong pattern that runs through my DNA and through my lineage is all about believing you are only worthy if you work hard and succeed.  My father’s entire being was about working hard to provide for his family, which was passed down through his mother’s bloodline.  This energy is increased significantly by the capitalist conditioning we all seem to be raised with.

This is a pattern I know all too well, it’s the pattern that caused my body to almost completely shut down 3 years ago.  

Now add to the mix, the genetics of my mother, she was a housewife, she stayed home and looked after her family.  When her children were of an age where they worked and her life was easier she was able to enjoy a slower pace.  This is where my genetics from my father’s lineage really started to screw me over, rather than being happy for my mother, I started to judge her for being lazy.  Now I never told her that, but that was the underlying energy that existed in me.  I swore faithfully to myself that I would never be lazy like that and I never have been.  Now, this is where it gets tricky.  I actually would love to live a more intentional, slower-paced life, but I am now judging myself as I did my mother.

So you can see, there are strong cellular patterns that need to be reorganised and shifted...

Being curious is so important during this process, you don’t need to understand it or solve it, you just need to acknowledge that this pattern and energy is real, it exists and be grateful for what it’s here to show you.

I’m at a space in time now where I have the ability to create a sacred union between the energy that both my parents brought to me.  I can also weave my own energy in and create something new that allows my children and all future generations to know that they can exist without judgement or feeling the need to prove themself and with the understanding that their desires are crucial to creating a purposeful life.

During this time as I continue to unpack the energy within my field, I have already found myself explaining to my (adult) children, what I am doing, so they don’t think I’m lazy.  I know I don’t need to explain myself to anyone let alone my kids, but I find myself doing this anyway because of the memories I have of judging my mum. 

As I feel further into that, I also understand that part of my way of teaching my children has always been through expression and doing, so even though I’m telling them why I’m choosing to do less, I’m also re-coding their DNA so they know they can exist in their true essence without judgement or explanation. 

HOW TO DECIPHER WHAT YOUR ENERGY AND BODY ARE TELLING YOU

As I mentioned earlier, towards the end of last year I had once again pushed myself to a state of burn out, but the beauty of the relationship I now have with my body is, my body has fine-tuned its way of expressing to me its likes and dislikes.  The one way it knows to stop me in my tracks is to attack my lungs, if I can’t breathe, you can be fairly certain I won’t be pushing myself to do anything.  So during my downtime, I held space for myself to feel into my lungs and my breath, because even though I had stopped, every time I started back up when I felt better, my lungs would let me know again that something wasn’t right.  I realised I was obviously missing something it was trying to tell me and I needed to dive deeper into understanding the energetics of it.

I have taken several mornings over this last week to tap into the greater planetary field, to feel the rhythm of Mother Earth’s heart and to feel her breath.  Nature is my activator so it’s understandable the tightness I feel in my chest as I work to unravel the capitalistic energy that surrounds the world.  Now as I encourage those rhythms to merge with the energy of my ancestors I allow them to alchemise as I weave in my desire of sovereignty for all. 

The beauty of weaving a field with Energy and Soul is, you can start to draw so many more aspects in.  Light Codes, Earth Medicine and Ancestral Karma are just a few that can enrich your field and lighten your body.

As I refine my field I can literally feel it reorganising my chest.  Through integrating my Mothers and Fathers energy along with my own and that of the planet, I can hear my body expressing that it ’thrives from the space to feel and breathe’.  

Those words, right there, are the key to me living a more purposeful life. 

By allowing myself to be completely connected with this rhythm and the words that came through, I can truly allow myself to just be… ‘when you allow yourself the space to feel and breathe, there’s no such thing as lazy, you’re in your highest productivity when you allow yourself to exist like this’.

That has literally blown my mind, I think I’ve read that statement a thousand times since then and when I break it down it means...

I’M IN MY HIGHEST LEVEL OF CREATIVE CONTRIBUTION TO THE PLANET WHEN I’M ALLOWING MYSELF THE SPACE TO FEEL AND BREATHE.

I just have to keep reminding myself...

WHEN I ALLOW MYSELF THE SPACE TO FEEL AND BREATHE, THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS LAZY, I’M IN MY HIGHEST PRODUCTIVITY WHEN I ALLOW MYSELF TO EXIST LIKE THIS.

So now I can allow my cells to reorganise, this is the key to cellularly re-patterning my genetics and changing my lineages DNA. Yes, I still have generational and capitalist energy residing in my cells but I will continue to infuse this energy into my cells while it reintegrates. Sometimes you can shift or unblock a pattern in one session, but sometimes it takes many times of coming back and doing it all again. After all, it took years (sometimes hundreds of years) to reside there in the first place, but the beauty of coming back and shifting more is, each time it gets easier because you understand the pattern so much more.

So now that I have shifted (or at least disrupted) the pattern that was blocking me from living a more purposeful life, I can focus back in on how I can do that.

TIPS FOR LIVING A MORE PURPOSEFUL LIFE

The most valuable reason for living an intentional life is, you’re contributing to the direction that many of us are wanting the world to go. 

So find a place that allows you to stop and feel at peace while you reflect on what you believe is truly important.  Here are a few tips to get you started:

You will probably start to find there are many aspects of your life that are demanding to be liberated from within.  Allow the transformation to begin. Just like a caterpillar cocoons itself in a chrysalis to radically transform its body into a beautiful butterfly, you must first allow yourself to stop and shut out the noise and go within.

Tap into your body and create a new set point, help yourself and the world awaken. 

We are now at a point in time where new energies are rippling through our bodies and through the Universe, we need to transmute them and express them to the planet so we are part of the change. The world has started to crack open and this is what awakening looks like, things are uprooted, uncertainty pushes us, old wounds are illuminated and brought to the surface.  

Now is the time to anchor in new hope, a new set point,  it’s time to step into the life you were born to live. 

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