Family Obligation Or Soul Contract?

We all know that feeling of having to do something that doesn’t necessarily align with who we are, but we feel obliged to carry it out. 

Don’t get me wrong, there are many family obligations that do align with us and we carry them out wholeheartedly with no resentment or ill-feeling. 

However, recognising the difference between an obligation from this lifetime and a contract that your soul is participating in, can be challenging. 

Remember though, on many levels our soul contracts intertwine with our family. Determining what is right for you is sometimes the only way our hearts can proceed without crushing who we are. 

Have you ever tried to pull away from something you don’t want to do, but you know your family wants you to do because ‘that’s what family does’, only to start beating yourself up because it’s been ingrained in you to do it all your life?

This is probably the most common family obligation we all experience. 

So how do you stand true to what you believe to be right?

By recognising first and foremost that you are an individual soul, who has the right to choose for yourself. Remaining sovereign in a family who doesn’t understand you is crucial.

Don’t allow peer pressure to push you to go against your beliefs. Even though this may cause friction, in the long run, you will be glad you stood your ground and remained true to you. This is hard for a past self-proclaimed ‘people pleaser’ to say, but a very important lesson. 

However, this is your journey, and even if you do give in at times, allow yourself to act as the observer to see what lessons you were meant to learn from it. 

Sit deep with these 2 questions? Are you meant (in this lifetime) to struggle against what feels right to you, to allow yourself to learn from the experience of losing yourself? Or.  Are you meant to segregate yourself from your family to discover your true authentic self without persuasion from others?

Whichever way you go, please realise that this test may not only come from your family. If you turn against the real reason you chose to come here, you will probably be challenged with a similar situation by someone else who enters your life. 

Sometimes sitting with this question when it’s originally presented to you, will save you many years of pain and struggles down the track. 

WHAT IS A SOUL CONTRACT?

Soul contracts are decided before we are born. 

We engage in these contracts to give us the opportunity to learn and grow. 

To learn the act of forgiveness, someone must take the responsibility to deeply hurt you. Thus providing you with the choice to either forgive them or stay resentful.

To know how to be independent and strong, someone must ensure they abandon you at your worst hour. Thus giving you the opportunity to either stand up for yourself or fall down and succumb to your circumstances.

So, everyone you meet has signed up to help your soul’s evolution. YOU have signed up too, to deal with them. Unfortunately yes, even the annoying ones.

By knowing that everything is part of this elaborate plan, you can allow yourself to grow.

Our pain should guide us, not make us feel helpless.

This is part of your soul's ascension. As the name suggests – it is ascending or rising above the current state. The higher you are able to move up, the bigger picture you’re able to see of your life.

Back yourself by being your own sovereign being.

This is when you begin to see that we’ve all decided to do this together. To build each other up even if it means, ironically, breaking each other down sometimes.

It’s these very triggers that someone brings out in us, which become the catalyst for our healing. 

And if we are able to transcend the pain of these wounds, the pain becomes our guide.

However, we need to understand that we are letting go of years (sometimes lifetimes) of conditioning. 

So at times, you may find yourself experiencing an intensified feeling of duality and separation in your relationships, as your worldview shifts.

Allow the burning to occur, because out of the ashes the phoenix will arise. 

This is a temporary phase of your awakening.

Over time, you will embrace the differences and step back into the Oneness. To be able to rise like the phoenix and be in touch with your eternal flame.

SO WHY DON’T WE REMEMBER OUR SOUL CONTRACTS?

We all have free will to make our own choices.

And before coming to this life, we chose to carry the lessons of our Soul’s past with us to build who we are. The story behind those lessons aren’t important. 

Even though the reason behind our human emotions (while in this life) may feel important, the reality is, what we have learnt, not how we learnt them, is why we’re experiencing it.

So holding on to the story that taught us the lesson is something we need to learn to let go of. 

Our Soul will interplay with many of the same souls throughout our different lifetimes, mostly because we didn’t learn the lesson the last time or because of how we treated someone, or how we were treated. 

I’ll give you an example from my soul's experience. I can recall an emotion from my soul's past life where I was abandoned as a baby by a parent. The soul of that parent from my previous life, in this lifetime, is still entwined in my life because that soul still hasn’t dealt with the lessons and so in this lifetime has difficulties facing me. 

If you are blessed to receive a vision or emotion from a past lifetime, allow it to help guide you. 

Forgiveness is the lesson that is needed. 

Forgiveness for abandoning someone and being abandoned. When both have learnt this lesson, a new energy is born which ripples out across all timelines.

However, until this lesson is learnt, these souls will replay different scenarios many lifetimes over. 

That’s not to say that we have absolutely forgotten the past. Everything that has happened or is going to happen is energy, which can neither be created nor destroyed.

It’s all out there, some call this our “Akashic Records“. Like a giant network of memories and events stored beyond space and time. But this is a topic much deeper and better saved for another time.

There are some opportunities where people can retrieve past lives, or they have ‘Near-Death Experiences’ and it helps them ‘see’ the bigger picture. But for most parts, evolution is naturally designed for us to take the lessons and drop the story.

HOW DO ENERGETIC PATTERNS FROM OUR FAMILY BECOME OUR OBLIGATION? 

We are born with a clean slate; then we become the product of our environment, taking on the belief system of our parents. Their beliefs became our beliefs until we realise that we’re running on old programming that was imprinted on us.

However, we can’t entirely blame our parents for these programs. If we’re born in that family lineage, it is because we’re carrying the energetic patterns that made us a vibrational match to them in the first place, way before we incarnated or re-incarnated with that family.

And when we become aware of these patterns, we have the responsibility to heal ourselves so we don’t pass them on from generation to generation.

Everything is energy, including us.

The reason we all look different is that we are energy arranged and vibrating in different ways. In other words, we are a combination of energetic patterns.

The process of healing an energetic pattern is not as complicated as it may seem if we have awareness of our patterns and use the right tools.

However, the process takes time and a lot of personal responsibility, as we have to stop blaming other people for what happens to us and, instead, use them as mirrors to see the patterns that most can’t see with our physical eyes.

Your external reality will show you your internal patterns if you view it as an observer.

The problem is that if we don’t have this awareness, our life will be run by those patterns on autopilot.

Self-awareness is the key to unlocking the energetic patterns you are carrying and releasing the obligations that no longer serve you. 

If you noticed yourself connecting with anything I have spoken about, please reach out for a chat. It might be time that you removed the energetic shackles that are holding you back from your full potential. I offer a free 30-minute discovery call to help you feel into what your body and soul need right now.

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